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    Posted: Feb 21 2012 at 11:02am
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I spoke to my brothers about this and they said I'm being too sensitive...
 
This weekend we were cleaning our home and doing laundry. My son and his dad bumped heads literally all weekend (my son is 16). There were times where his dad would tell my son to do something and he would either give him a "I am" or some other unecessary response. When his dad would talk to him, our son would get real short with him. I took it as teenage attitude that needed to be checked. I had to tell my son that he needed to chill, you know parental guidance. It didn't stop there. My son has never been like this so this is completely new to me.
 
His dad gave him a warning about our son talking to him like he was stupid, the smart comments, cutting his eyes at his dad and all. Last night dad asks son to clean out the car. Dad took the car to the car wash and he paid our son to clean the inside. This is routine. Son was on the phone with his gf while cleaning the car and left the garage door open. Someone stole dads tool set and wet/dry vac. This was an expensive ass tool set and vaccum. He's an automechanic and he leaves tools here to do side jobs. He asks son about leaving the door open and my son takes no responsibility then proceeds to talk to dad like he's completely foolish. He put base in his voice; had me looking with my mouth wide open.  
 
Out of nowhere his dad started swinging he hit him in the chest 1 time, in the arms. He's NEVER EVER hit our children. This is our only son and this hurt me to no end. My brothers told me I'm being over protective momma and I need to back away, that they'll start to bump heads a lot. They said my son was "smelling his piss" and needed to feel that his dad is the man of the house, not him. I think he could have handled this a little better than that. After the blows his dad did talk to him. But he said he didn't apologize and isn't going to.
 
Am I being the overprotective momma? I don't want to spoil or coddle my son but damn that really hurt my feelings. I mean I bump heads with my teen daughter but it hasn't caused me to escalate it that far. His dad says ever since he (son) got some pucci he walk around like his d!ck is bigger than the worlds and he's smelling his piss. Any feedback. For the 4 men here, anything...You all give great advice on the daddy/son dealings.
 
 


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He could have handled that better.
 
Physical blows is not the answer, imo.
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Yes you are being to over protective. You trusted your husband enough to marry him and have his children, trust him enough to let him handle his son. IMO

Go do some Zumba or work a crossword puzzle or something. Let your husband deal with his son.
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Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Yes you are being to over protective. You trusted your husband enough to marry him and have his children, trust him enough to let him handle his son. IMO

Go do some Zumba or work a crossword puzzle or something. Let your husband deal with his son.





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You hubby needed to break him down. I know its difficult to watch it...but it will only get worse if he isn't forced back into his place.
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Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

He could have handled that better.
 
Physical blows is not the answer, imo.
This will always be my stance. The men in my family disagree. My son did get completely out of his element but I feel it should not have gone that far.
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can you just let it go and tell your husband you are not comfortable with this means of discipline and to handle it better should there be a next time?



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Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Yes you are being to over protective. You trusted your husband enough to marry him and have his children, trust him enough to let him handle his son. IMO

Go do some Zumba or work a crossword puzzle or something. Let your husband deal with his son.
It's gotta be a better way.
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Originally posted by mzmee mzmee wrote:

Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

He could have handled that better.
 
Physical blows is not the answer, imo.
This will always be my stance. The men in my family disagree. My son did get completely out of his element but I feel it should not have gone that far.
 
I have two sons so I am biased and soft hearted towards them.
 
I see where your hubby is coming from but as a mother it's hard to watch.
 
This is a stuffy..Hug
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