dont think I can be natural nemore! (goes off)

iLoveMrCortez wrote: thanks guys. I was having a hair crisis yesterday.  I may stay natural for a lil while longer, but summertime will be the test.  I wore my hair in an afro today with a scarf. It actually looked cute but I had to do some modifying. I had to pin the back up under the scarf because my textures werent matching.  Does anyone have multiple textures throughout their head? that's another thing that makes styling difficult because what I look like with an afro up top and it hanging down on the bottom?? Grrr hair!!

duo wrote: I feel the same way..I just don't know what to do with it. It is always dry and there aren't any styles I can do that I like. I find that the only time I like wearing my hair is when I blow it out and straighten it. :-\ I don't think I will perm my hair because I like my growth, but it's so tempting. I might perm it when it gets very long. I think being natural is easier dependent on what hairtype you have

OP I totally understand your frustration.  There are so many factors to why we go natural and why we don't won't to bother with it anymore.  I've been natural for over six years now and I still feel like I get tired of all the work that goes into my hair.  It's a beast that I've learned how to work with as far as no longer being overwhelmed with my hair.  BUT..  I still don't feel as though I know how to style my hair the way that I would like.  Or for example when I do  twist out it looks great but then my problem becomes how do I maintain the style throughout the week.  I totally understand what you mean about liking length.  For me I just don't look right with shorter styles because of my face shape.  But anyway, my hope is to encourage you that we all go through these times of doubt and just being unsatisfied.  But I agree with trying different wigs or weaves, or even just watching and looking at natural hair tutorials for inspiration and tips.  I'm really thankful that the ladies here seem to be okay with just doing with your hair what you like but keeping in mind health too.  I used to go on a board where wearing a straight style was of the devil according to some.  And I well I can't get with that either.  

I had a "hair crises" last week and ended up cutting off a lot of hair and then re-evaluating my natural hair game plan.

Thankfully I am at a place where its finally "just hair".. and I did not get upset about losing length.

It happens to every natural at some point..(the frustration). You are not alone.

One thing I can honestly say, is that I have never considered going back to relaxing. What makes me never consider the thought of going back to the creamy crack is remembering why I went natural in the first place.

PLUS I notice that most people who end up relaxing (for what ever reason).. end up transitioning all over again or making their big chop #12345..

No thanks.

Good luck to you!

Fashionista922 wrote: I think you should consider heat training your hair. To me,  this is the best of both worlds. My kinks are looser and I can have the "relaxed look" anytime I want and I have the thickness that relaxed hair will never have! I am also a length whore. I transitioned for more than 2 years so I would never have to be bald or do the BC. Think about it before going back to the creamy crack.